Happy New Year, strangers! We are one week in, and so far I'm feeling pret-ty good about it. I feel like many stresses of yesteryear are behind me, and I'm starting the year off with my adorable little ducks in an adorable little row. That's why I feel confident in going with tradition this year and outlining some goals (dare I say, resolutions?). 18 of them, for obvious reasons. Some larger than others, all have a reasonable shot at being accomplished. Order is inconsequential. Here we go:
1. Be more helpful with dinner. Before I took my job I was nailing the whole dinner thing. I was cooking most evenings so that Troy could get baby time when he got home, and I could get a break from baby! Then my schedule changed and I slipped into the bad habit of telling my husband, "I'm tired! Either you cook dinner, or I'll get take out on my way home." That became the new normal, and although he didn't specifically complain, I started to get the hint that Troy was not super onboard with having dinner duty 100% of the time. So my goal is to balance it out by cooking 1/2 the time, and doing a better job pre-planning meals. No more spending 45 minutes deciding on what to eat when we could just be eating!
2. Get through a workout without modifying. I could say "exercise more," but it's too vague. My actual, quantifiable goal is to workout enough that I don't have to do the ninny version of the exercise AT ALL. Push ups, no knees. Jump squats with the actual jump. All the burpees. I have workout videos that I use, and the week I get through every video without modifying once or taking an extra break is the week I cross this goal off the list.
3. Create more blog content. I say this every other post, I really want to be writing more consistently. It's not even just here, but also in my personal journals for myself and Roman. However, this forum is easier to quantify. I believe I wrote 16 posts last year. Even if I write 17 this year I'll have completed my goal. Expect a lot of follow up posts on my 18 goals...
4. Clean as I go. I'm not neat by nature. I throw shit on the floor and leave trash on counters without second thought. I like being clean better; I feel calmer and more confident when I know the house is clean. I mean, what if the Queen stops by and I have a bra on every doorknob?! Embarrassing. Usually it's a big job on Sunday to get the house back in shape after the messy mayhem of the week. I've been better about cleaning as I go, even going as far as starting [not finishing] loads of laundry on weekdays, but I want to keep improving. I'll know I've hit my mark when I get to Sunday and have no more than 2 loads of laundry, one load of dishes, and dusting waiting for me.
5. Travel. June will be 2 years since we have taken a proper vacation. I'm totally OK with that since last year was spent keeping a newborn alive, but it's time for a change of scenery. I have a hilarious co-worker visiting family in Greece in September. He SAYS Troy and I may be able to tag along, which would really be the trip of a lifetime for us, but anything could happen. If by June those plans haven't materialized Troy and I have promised ourselves to plan for something almost equally epic. Destination TBD.
6. Take more day-to-day videos. Some of my favorite videos are the ones of people doing nothing, just living their regular lives surrounded by their regular stuff in their regular house. Those are the videos that when we look back we will say "wow! Remember THAT couch?!" or "I can't believe that's how you wore your hair!" Troy has some real good ones from his childhood and we mock his parents endlessly for their fashion (non)sense and weird design tastes. I can't wait for when Roman is saying the same things about us!
7. Read. More specifically, read 2 books. I love reading but barely finished one last year. I'm doubling that number this year, hopefully I can manage!
8. Lay out clothes for the next day. Do you know the worst time of day to pick out a cute, coordinated outfit? 6 am, when it's cold and dark and you're still groggy, and half wondering if the dream-adventure you went on is something that actually happened or not. You stare at your closet for way too long and end up wearing something frumpy anyway (and of course that day your coworker wears a handsome lavender v-neck making your non-fashion choices look extraordinarily boring). That is not a way to live! So from now on I'm picking my clothes out the night before, and any frumpy outfits will be an ironic choice.
9. Utilize fridge reminder. I know we are out of eggs, wine, and...shit! What was the other thing? Luckily I have a handy refrigerator magnet grocery list reminder pad to help me keep things straight. I swear I'm going to actually use it.
10. Use coupons. While I'm at the grocery store not forgetting things I will also be saving money using the many, many coupons I have collecting in my kitchen. I don't actually know how to be better at this as I've tried and failed so many times, even to the point where I have carried coupons with my at all times only to forget to use them at checkout. Nevertheless, she persisted...#amiright
11. Finish appraisal courses. I'm so close! I just gotta buckle down and find the time. I have a deadline of March, so...it's gotta happen.
12. Play more video games. This one is on everyone's list, right? Stay inside, ignore your family, and kill some bad guys? Sounds like a great day! We gotta finish Fallout 4 and Resident Evil 7, that's the real goal. We are almost done with both, so by 2019 we better have seen the endings!
13. Go on summer day trips. We took a couple of beach day trips last year and they brought me such joy! Just the three of us, makin' memories together. I want to prioritize that this year by making a goal to go on one day trip a month during the summer. Seems totally reasonable, right? And there is so much to do in Oregon! Can't wait to see where [toddler level] adventure takes us!
14. Take full advantage of our new backyard! Last summer our backyard was a construction site. This year it's a beautiful oasis behind a mediocre house, and I can't wait to take full advantage of my sunlit haven. Imagine! Mid morning sunbathing, evening soirees, late night stargazing. Come on over, I'll be out back!
15. Work on maintaining friendships. Being by myself is like being in a warm blanket cocoon. I'm comfortable and happy and don't have to worry about hair or makeup or basic hygiene. I also laugh a lot less and can get WAY too caught up in my own insecurities and anxieties. I know some pretty rad folks, though, people who are interesting and fun and are worth leaving the house for. I have to set up play dates for Roman, I can do the same for myself!
16. Plan date nights. I've got this crazy idea. What if, hear me out now, what if we left our kiddo with Grandma and my husband and I went out ALL BY OURSELVES?! Preposterous! Ludicrous! Inconceivable! But I'm going for it. In fact, I'm thinking quarterly. 4 times this year I demand romance, intimate conversation, and a reason to wear heels.
17. Go dancing. I'm feelin' it in my soul. I just gotta dance.
18. "Build" Roman bookshelves. OK, so technically I won't be building anything. My goal is to motivate Troy to build shelves to display Roman's books and make them easier for him to access. I was told it was a realistic weekend job, so this should be totes easy to cross off the list!
That's it Strangers! 18 totally accomplishable objectives. Aaaahhh, I feel successful already. It's going to be an OK year.
Tell me, Stranger, what are your intentions this year?